AD wrote:Dog wrote:How are your kids btw, AD? They weird too?
My 2nd is pretty normal I feel. Very smart. Great sense of observation (notices details like your daughter, somewhat headstrong too.. but can go back to "reasonable" pretty quick). He's like your daughter-light. He's 3 though so there's room for me to screw him up.
My 1st is a bit of a mess. Smart. Especially when it comes to creative/artistic side. He's also a pretty good reader (for his age). But really comes to life if you give him anything that can make music or to draw with or sing or dance. But he has these dark mood swings. Very negative. Loses hope in a situation very quickly. He's like an angsty-emotional 14 year old.
Except he's 6.
i get this feeling that being a good reader makes a big difference in how a kid does in school. my daughter has been a good reader since day one. she can read at a junior adult level now. really the only thing holding her back is lack of experience / knowledge of life.
my son started slow. he was happy to read with people up until grade one or so, and put up a fight when we tried to make him read on his own. he was (and is) behind my daughter's reading skills. but then this past year, we saw a marked change in him. i started a reward system to get him to read. originally it was 25 cents for every 20 pages read, and then after that we changed it to $1 for every time he reached the page of a book that was divisible by 100, plus for finishing a book. eventually they were just getting check marks and i haven't bothered paying them for it.
needless to say, he went from struggling through the second harry potter book at the beginning of the school year (my wife read the first book to them last summer) to flying through the third through the fifth/sixth books. this is on top of all the other books that they read "for fun". he's been reading the 7th book for awhile now (because he went back to fighting to have to read harry potter specifically at about midway through the sixth book), and i think had about one hundred pages left last weekend. he's probably going to finish today or tomorrow.
the thing is, there was a mental shift in him. he used to say that he wasn't good at reading and refuse to pick books up. now, he has complete confidence in his ability to read and the only question is whether he wants to or not. i think it also gives him confidence in being able to learn things. there are no more excuses for him. he can't say that he's not smart enough and he can't read well enough, so he just pushes through and reads.
i don't know what any of this has to do with your angsty son, other than perhaps to let him have an outlet for his feelings through art/books/music. maybe put him in piano lessons or something and let him work on that side of his passions. it's good for his brain anyway.